Does it hurt the first time you have sex?

Im in love. And my boyfriend told me he'd wait forever if he had to for us to have sex. He dosent push it. But hes waiting until im ready. And i think in a few weeks i will be....

Im in love. And my boyfriend told me he'd wait
forever if he had to for us to have sex.
He dosent push it. But hes waiting until
im ready. And i think in a few weeks i will be.

Does it hurt? Anything i need to know?
Im a little bit scared.
But then again im not.
I love this boy and i know he loves me.

:) thank you.

Vacationer	If you really love him, and he really loves you (Which it sounds like you both do) then wait until you're married. This is a way to show your devotion to each other. Believe me, this is the best way.

Angie	It will hurt somewhat. Get on the pill. If it's been less than two weeks that you've been on the pill, have him wear a condom so your body can adjust to the hormones. Also, think about lubing up to help this first time. But, if you're still a little girl, you need to wait. Not only are you not responsible for any of the consequences, but you're still growing! It will hurt a lot more since you're still little. Hope you make the right decision.

Winkzz!	use a condom don't want NO babies runnin round!

I LUV TREVOR <3	HOW OLD ARE YOU?????? Be careful, he might just be saying that to get you to do it. Yes, it does hurt the first time, and you should take birth control pills and have him use a condom. Make sure you are really in love, not just blinded by looks. And if you really are in love, then get married.

mike1942f	Usually, some what, from the tearing of the hymen if that happens and from the lack of lubrication if you are tense - that can hurt any time if force is used. If you are serious about your plans, you should also be planning on the birth control you are going to be using and if the pill, you need to get on it soon. [Yes you can get pregnant the first time and if you continue with unprotected sex, the probablility of getting pregnant in the first year is about 100%]

Jessica .	Yes it does hurt (not too bad, don't worry). You might possibly bleed a little too (this is your hymen breaking). Basically, the only advice I'll give to you is to make sure you use proper protection (condoms). I cannot stress this enough. Also another thing, the pull out method (he's just about to cu.m, so he pulls out out you and cums on you/in your mouth) DOES NOT work. You should get on some birth control before you have sex, just be be safe.

IcanoutfishU	Not only is it painful physically the first time the emotional damage you are going to carry around for the rest of your life is definatley not worth it!

Chris W	please make sure your ready. protection for sure you cant be to safe itll hurt having anything put into you it wont be incredibly painful but it will definatly be tight make sure you use lube or something else to make it easier with less pain best answer me if this helped

quiksilverstreet	yes it may hurt your vagina might bleed and you may scream loud but dont forget to wear protection.

maddog27271	Gesundheit Kayla!

Jen	#1 if he says he'll wait, then hold him to it, but I seriously doube he's willing to wait for 4 years 'till youre old enough to get married... #2 How long have you been with him, and how do you know what love is whan you're only 14? #3 If youre like anyone I know, you will change your mind quite a few times and date several guys before uou get married, why give yourself away to so many men? #4 IT HURTS MOST WOMEN TO HAVE SEX, If it doean't hurt to have sex, it will hurt when you break up with him even more, it will hurt your pride, it will hurt your reputation... WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH TO KNOW HOW TO PROPERLY USE A CONDOM (TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM A STD, and you've already suspected him of having one - how can you know for sure?)AND YOU ARE ON BIRTHCONTROL (for extra protection, teen pregnancy isn't fun - it definately hurts to have a baby or to kill one)AND YOU ARE AT LEAST 2 YEARS OLDER, IF NOT UNTIL YOU HAVE A REAL MAN WHO CAN TAKE CARE OF YOU AND ALLOW YOU TO GIVE THE MOST PRECIOIS GIFT YOU EVER COULD.

Christina I	I wouldn't know, I 'm a virgin and I'm keeping it that way until marriage.

blackbling89	the first time i had sex it didn't hurt at all. but the big question is...how old are you guys...if ur both under 18 this could be a seriously bad thing to do...plus...i think it would be better to wait till you guys got married to have sex.

i_love_candy	i wouldnt know but dont give up your viginity to that boy. (assuming you are one) if he's really willing to wait, he'll wait until you get serious and after you are married. assuming it lasts that long sorry bout the hard truth, but some guys will take it and go.

Misty M	It has been a few years for me, but I do not remember the pain, i'm sure it hurt a bit, but what I remember is being with that "special" person, not pain.

musner3	I'm a guy senior citizen, this is the truth, so I'm old fashion when I was young like you are now religion was really a guide to our behavior. Like sex before marriage is a sin and if you are religious and you did it anyway. Then if you said anything about this it would be to a close friend. Now for your question...For guys the 1st time is an exciting pleasure never before experienced. For girls you have a like a thin membrane just inside your vagina that will be broken with penetration. That is the pain you will experience and then bleeding a little because it is just a teeny part of you that is damaged in a 1st time sexual intercourse. Now that I'm older I don't believe sex should ever have been taught to be a sin. There is so much wonderful pleasure for both male and female to enjoy with each other. You should be mature enough to understand love and the difference beween just having sex for the fun and the makeing love with someone you really do care for and to know enough to be safe and sure of your partner. I hope I am helpful for you. I hope you are really really sure before you consent.

Kerrie B	Sweetheart, Let me give you some advice. Yes it is a painful experience. But I can't be a hypocrite about it cuz I have only had sex 1 time and that was a few months ago. But let me just suggest dat u have thoroughly thought this out. Cause I face everyday wit regret. I am only 14 so I don't know y I am tryin to act like Oprah, just tryin to give a lil helpful advice. I'm OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LorencE	When my girl and I had sex for the 1st time she really screamed and she even cried because she told me that it was really painful.

michael t	love is a beautiful thing if your not for sure please wait until your married and yes it hurts like hell you will bleed and fill like someone is cutting you

Lovely	foreplay first! lots...! the more nervous you are, the more it will hurt so dont plan it. Just know that you are ready and then go with the flow as to when it happens. Just dont forget protection. If its uncomfortable the first time, dont worry...wait till the 3rd time...thats when it gets good

arcticwolf71960	If you're underage, the best thing to do is wait until you're at least 18 . I'm your classic 40+ year-old virgin, (go ahead and laugh, people). But yes, from what I understand it does hurt for girls the first time. There is also some vaginal bleeding. I chose to abstain from sex intentionally until the day I got married. Perhaps you should too. It may save you a lot of problems in the long run.

Sweet_angel	I dont know im a virgin

Male Kaleesh	since that you are a girl yes it will hurt. if u r a guy no theres no pain having sex but the girl you having sex with will feel some pain. Ya........ it's not easy being a woman isn't it

Mz Brunette	Awwwwwwwwwwwww l'amour!!! <3 now, as sweet as that is, yes there are some things you should know: -BIRTH CONTROL. Always use a condom to prevent STD/STI's and going on the pill now would be a very good idea to prevent pregnancy so I would talk to your doctor. -Yes it hurts. -You love this "boy". Hun, the longer you wait, the better (and less painful) it'll be. That's fact. Do not have underage sex. I'm not an adult saying "EW EW SEX SEX IT'S BAD IT WILL KISS YOU" but underage sex WILL bite you in the butt later in life. Trust me on this. If he's willing to wait (and for whatever reason he soon doesn't then dump him baby) then you should too. Wait til you guys are like 18...

they call me Bindi	no its all good

Emily a.k.a. Depressed..	You said in your previous postings your 14. And your dating an 18 year old. Wait until your married! But to answer your question, yes it does hurt the first time having sex.

Steve C	Are you 13 years' old? If so, you are not ready for the unintentional consequences (mental, physical, and emotional) of having sex. There are many more ways to be "hurt" by having sex then the one's you're thinking of.

Memphis Lawdog	It hurts like holy hell. Good luck!

TheExpert	Are you prepared for pregnancy, or an STD? Sex are for committed married couples. Stay out of trouble.

Bill	If the _13 in your SN is your age, you need to wait.

*Proud Army Wife*	Yes, it hurts. But it doesn't HAVE too. Usually when you are having sex for the first time you are both inexperienced and that is why it ends up hurting. Use a lubrication and tell him to be very Gentle. Believe me, it gets better and DONT FORGET TO PROTECT YOURSELF!! I had to add this.....like someone above said, if you are only 13, PLEASE WAIT. You are WAY too young to give your body to someone. In 10 years from now when you find someone that you are head over heals in love with and want to marry, you WILL regret having sex at this age. Please think twice...hell, think 3 times before you give up your virginity. It is truly the last bit of innocence.