Is having your 15 yr old daughter checked by a doctor, if she´s still a virgin wrong?

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mara	yea. let her be the one to tell you if she is or isnt when she is ready. doing that just creates a bigger gap between the 2 of you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chris_jorna	Monkeys is the craziest kind of people! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BabyDruid	You should ask her, and trust her, communications help alot, instead of taking her to doctor, being all embrassing n stuff.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

philosophynerd	Well whether it is wrong or not is beside the point. There really is not such thing a medical concept of virginity. The doctor can check to see if the hymen is still intact, but the hymen can break for all sorts of reasons not related to sex and conversely sex doesn't always break it. More to the point, do you really want some doctor feeling around your daughter's private parts just to satisfy some suspicion you have or not when there is really no way of knowing with any certainty since virginity is a social concept and not a medical one. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ladyjf17	I think you know its DEAD wrong, otherwise you wouldn't be asking us. Would you like someone to force you to go through an investigation of your private parts? And what if the results prove she is a virgin? What then, do you smile and move on? Your daughter, who has been violated, will not. You should, instead, maybe sit down with a family doctor and discuss sex, STDS, and birth control. You may also want to think about seeing a psychologist to discuss th bahvior she is exhibiting that is making you think she is having sex. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Asdef	i think so. fine it answers one question, but she'd be humiliated if she lied or did not. sides i think it would wreak any relation ship you'd have. you tried takin to her with out bein judemental? be open minded 4 once. how would you like to be treated at that age? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TomSPB	It seems that you are a bit overprotective, just trust your daughter and she'll probably trust you more. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

whats really good	IF YOU HAVE SUCH A POOR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILD THAT SHE CAN NOT EVEN TALK TO YOU YOU ARE AT FAULT THE FACT THAT IT MAY EVEN BE POSSIBLE THAT YOU 15 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER IS SEXUALLY ACTIVE SHOWS THAT YOU ARE A POOR PARENT AND ROLE MODEL I BET YOU HAD HER YOUNG,,,, IT JUST SEEMS LIKE THE MEXICANS ARE ALL TEENAGE MOTHERS ... MOST PEOPLE ARE STILL LEARNING AND GROWING UNTIL THEIR MID TWENTIES BUT WHY DO SO MANY LATINOS HAVE KIDS AT SUCH YOUNG AGE I GUESS THEY ARE DONE EVOLVING AS TEENAGERS GOD BLESS YOUR DAUGHTER AND FORGIVE YOU FOR BEING SUCH A POOR MOTHER I WILL PRAY FOR YOU IF SHE GETS PREGNATE MAKE SURE SHE DOESNT GIVE BIRTH MOST LATINAS END UP HAVING 4 KIDS WHEN THEY CANT EVEN FEED ONE OUR GOVT IS IN A RECESSION WE CANT AFFORD TO TAKE CARE OF ANOTHER ILLEGIITAMATE UNWANTED LATINO BABY... BUT HIS PRISON CELL IS BEING BUILT Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fucsakeuk	yes it is you should ask your daughter if she is still a virgin and trust what she tell you Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ehc11	Yes it is wrong, she is her own person with free will. This would seriously damage your relationship with your daughter as you are showing her that you don't trust her. All you can do is ask her, trust her and explain the dangers of sex and the principles of safe sex. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Blah Blah	YES. She is her own person. Give her some privacy. That is, if you mean "to see if she's still a virgin". Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lovepurple	I think that it is an invasion of her privacy if it is to satisfy your curiosity. If you feel that there could be something wrong with her such as an STD or other serious matter then I would say you should take her to get checked out. If you have talked to her and she has told you her feelings then you should respect that. If you have a good relationship with her she will let you know what is going on with her. Also, if she goes to the Gynecologist for a yearly pap, they would be able to tell if she has been sexually active or not; but don't ask the Doc in front of your daughter and keep the answer to yourself or you will lose her trust. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tungi	Yes, respect her and she will respect you - it would be very embarrising for her and if she isnt by then, she might lose it just to spite you - as long as you train your children well, there is nothing to worry about - Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

everybody loves chris!	thats very wrong woudl you have liked that at her age? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rachelsweet2001	Yes she is her own person and would you like it if the situation was reversed and your mother did it to you. You should trust her if you worried talk it over as an adult to other adult with her, expressing why you want her to have a Dr check her out. If you worried about her and a sex life then again talk it through outlining everything from intercourse, aids, pregnancy cover the whole topic. she is heading towards being a woman treat her like one. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

notrix_uk2005	Well I think you should, as she is under-age. However maybe telling her your gonna take her will make your daughter confess all anyways? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

joann_xvi	I had the same experience with my mom when I was 15. She took me to the clinic and had some tests done but she saw my face and saw how embarassed I was and I was really upset and mad at her, she took me to my favorite fast food restaurant, held my hands and asked me "Do you want to see the results?" I said no and she said ok and so we went home. I'm so glad my mom did that or else I think I would have hated her forever. I love my mom by the way. Don't let your daughter hate you for that. Respect her individuality. If you are suspecting that she is not, chances are 50-50. Love her all the more. My own mommy did and it has done wonders in our relationship. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ozi_nut	What right do you have to pry into your daughters life? Like that if she has given herself to someone that is her choice, why do you need to know? mayby sit down with her and discuss the options of contraception and safe sex, and she will soon let you know if you need to worry or not beleive me i have a 16 yo who is sexualy active and weather you permit it or not they are going to do it anyway! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

byedabye	If my mum did that to me i would never talk to her again! You should trust her enough to believe what she tells you! If you think she is having sex then just make sure she is safe. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

steveneldaher	no, i think a parent is entitled to piece of mind regarding issues such as this, especially when they are looking after and providing for every thing in their child's life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Anand S	yes Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

foxy86	yes it is so wrong. you may be her mother but it isnt your business she isnt your little girl anymore. if you believe that you have brought her up well and she has respect for herself then there should be no problem anyway. honestly your daughter will resent you so much if you do that! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

scotsman	Except for forensic purposes to determine if she has been the victim of an attack, of course it is. Why do you even have to ask? Any such examination without consent is an assault and if she consents only because of your duress, that is not a valid consent. I would be astonished if you could even find a doctor willing to carry it out. The key issue here is surely one of trust. If your daughter does not trust you enough to tell you details of her sex-life, or if you do not trust her enough to believe her, having somebody stick their fingers inside her is not a recipe to repair that trust. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

petal34@btinternet.com	yes examinations like that can be pain full embarrassing and also degrading to your daughter would you really want to put her through that why don't you just talk to her instead of going to such extremes remember she is your daughter a human being not a piece of meat to be messed about with...and would you want her to hate you cos if you did get her checked she would never forgive you for it Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lokolobo	she is still a virgin.. Only sex that involved intercourse would change that.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BeBe	Sorry but that's not the best way to figure out if she is still a virgin or not. Can't you talk to her? Do you not trust her? I think that you are being a bit too obsessed. Let the child be happy and don't traumatize her like that :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nikki999	yes its wrong why u want to know? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Big Jay 7	no, take her to a female doctor... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Thinker	At 15 your child is YOUR responsibility. If YOU feel that is necessary, then take her to the doctor. If she gets into trouble, your the one that will pay the price. Being a good parent takes tough love sometimes. It's not only your right to do so, it's your responsibility. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ASK	No it's not. But you should think about your upbringing when she was smaller. What did you teach her that now you can't truest her? Of course you can do it because you're responsiblefor her and you have rights to now that. In many cases parents would be able to help their kinds if they would have information. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gramstheshoppingmaniac	Having been a mom of two teenagers, I don't feel that it's wrong to want to do this. Kids are having sex way too young with little or no accurate information, and they're getting younger all the time. Also, obviously by the other answers you're getting, kids and adults that aren't parents yet don't comprehend the concerns of a parent of teenagers. Barely out of puberty kids think they're adults, so they make bad decisions to prove to us how "grown up" they are. sigh Then when they can't handle the results of those decisions, we - their parents - are the ones that end up with a lot of the consequences of THEIR actions. :( Unfortunately, there are a couple of problems with your idea tho... 1. In most states, your daughter would be considered old enough to refuse to allow a doctor to examine her, AND old enough to not allow them to tell you any of her medical information. :( I'm sure the young 'uns think this is appropriate, yet as their parents, we're still held legally responsible for so many of their actions and what happens to them, and this can often leave us unable to protect or guide them as needed. 2. Medical information now says that a doctor can't always tell if a girl is still a virgin or not. They used to go by whether the hymen was still intact, but these days they know that there are a lot of things that can break the hymen, such as a fall, use of tampons or sex toys, or manual sexual contact. It's also been found to be possible to have sex, yet NOT break the hymen. So even if your daughter and her doctor cooperated, there's just no way to know for sure anymore. Hang in there, and hold onto your standards with her. No matter how much they cuss about it, you're not doing anything wrong by trying to protect them - from others or from themselves. Just do your best, tell her of your concerns, give her facts, don't be afraid to tell her in love what you feel about her choices, and you will have no reason for regrets... and someday you might even get to hear her say "Mom, you were right. I'm sorry I didn't listen to you." My daughter - now 20 - has said that to me MANY times in the past couple of years. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No