My mom thinks i'm fat!?!?

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qwerty	it's okay. as long as you're healthy. you're a dancer and that's excersizing enough i guess. but running always help for me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sash	Pleaase girl. it sounds like u r the perfect size. As long as u get exercise and u do since your a dancer than u should be tone enough. If the kind of dancing u do doesn't help tone ur arms than do some exercises to tone them but really, I wouldn't do a thing. Just because ur mom was stick skinny doesn't mean she looked healthy or was. Tell your mom she and u are two different people and u r perfectly happy with ur size and we all think she need to get off ur butt Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Angel Baby	holy crap then your mom is a *****. if you feel that your not fat then thats how you feel and your not wrong. i belive its you living in you body not your mom. so as long as your Comfortable thats all that should matter :D Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pyt20 EAGLES FAN! ♫ fo sho♫	ur mom must want u to look sickly cause u are fine the way u are thats a perfect weight Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

drtabby2b	The very least you should weigh for your hight is 102 pounds, but you are still in normal range. I would just try to do some extra excersizes on the parts that may "look" big. DONT DIET. Dieting in you teens can really make it hard to keep from gaining weight as an adult because it can hurt you metabolism. Excersize however will help raise it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

firewolf	u r not fat i think ur mom is jealous Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Angel	There is a difference between caring about the health and well-being of your child and trying to push your child into attaining an unrealistic body type. Your mother's comments may be intended to be harmless (perhaps she is conjuring up memories of her past in an attempt to make her feel good about her own body), but they are obviously emotionally scarring. I remember when I was a teenager, I suffered from pretty severe acne. I was so embarassed by it that I would avoid social settings and would try to hide my face by not looking at people directly in the eye when I talked. One time, my mother said, "Wow, your skin is really bad these days." She didn't MEAN for that comment to be hurtful, but where I was already so insecure about my skin, it seemed to magnify my self-esteem issues. I talked to my mother about her comment and told her how much it hurt me; that it wasn't my fault that my skin is the way that it is and that I can't do anything about it. She hasn't made such an insensitive comment since. If you eat right, exercise, and maintain a pretty active lifestyle (which it sounds like you do being a dancer and all), you should not be concerned about your body shape. I wish I had more muscular legs to be perfectly frank! I recommend that you talk to your mother about her comments. Be honest with her and tell her how you feel. Just remind her that you are NOT her. Perhaps she was stick skinny when she was your age, but that doesn't mean that you have to be too. If you have self-esteem and body issues, I recommend talking to a professional before they manifest into a larger issue. Watch this clip too: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYhCn0jf46U It's a commercial made by Dove for the real beauty campaign. It's only a minute long, but it is absolutely powerful. Keep your head up high and don't let anyone pollute your mind with these thoughts that you should be ashamed of your body. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kleighs mommy	you are stick skinny. you are not fat Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

peachyone	You can slim yourself down but I don't think that is really the problem. My mom always made remarks about my feet being too big, or my ears sticking out, or my butt being big, or my "buck teeth", etc, etc. These things used to get to me until I realized none of them were really true. It wasn't until my mom was dying that I made some disparaging remark about my looks and she said, "Oh, no you're not. You're pretty!" I sat there stunned because my mom had never said anything that nice about my looks before. When she died less than a week later, I reflected on what she had said and how she had grown up. I began to see that the bad remarks and constant teasing were things she had probably endured from her own mom. Always had to measure up and never good enough. It caused me to reevaluate the way I spoke to my own daughter. I realize that I rarely told her that I loved her and it was just easy to "tease playfully". You bet I don't let a conversation with her go by now without letting her know that I am proud of her and I love her. Your mom loves you, too, but I'm thinking she may just have a difficult time expressing what she feels (and may have had this "teasing" happen to her as a young girl). Try telling your mom how her remarks affect you, she might not know she's being so hard on you. If that doesn't work, I know it's hard for now but you won't be a teenager forever. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cuddle1979	I would seriously shoot your mom in the head with small stone and a sling-shot. Nothing that would kill her, just draw a little blood. And do that each time she says it. She should eventually stop. Your weight is A)FINE! and B)none of her freakin' business. Feel free to show her all of these messages that you have gotten that say that you are thin and let her know about the sling-shot idea. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pinkstealth	you are not fat ! Just tell her "I'm working on it." Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mom	I am so sorry your mother is putting this pressure on you. With all the tabloid stuff on anorexia and eating disorders, the last thing a 15yr old needs is to hear this from her mom. I believe you are at a very healthy weight for your age. I would, respectfully, tell her that you don't beleive you are fat, that you look like all the other kids, and that her telling you this is having a slight negative effect on you. If it is bothering you, you could do some toning exercises for the flab, but I wouldn't even worry about it, your body is still changing and will do alot of toning on its own in the next few yrs. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mark L	if u wanna slim urself down change ur eating habits in lunch like get a salad instead of the nuggets and dancing will help out to n dont do anorexic shes just be a lil dumb, (fyi its ur body and a temple to the eyes of god) but its what u do to urself n its ur body dont try to please if she dont like u fyi 117 aint that bad Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

charlies angel	just try to be your self! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

L	you don't need to lose weight, it sounds like you are completely average, if not skinnier than average. have her read some articles on the dangers of being too skinny and anorexia. if she really loves you, she should just want you to be healthy, which it sounds like you are. :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

betty j	Love yourself the way you are. Accept how you are today ...that you are okay... and Mom might have a problem, not you. We often project onto others what we dislike in ourselves. Maybe she feels like she is fat.... Take care! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

deb g	if ur only 117 pounds and a size 3 ur NOT fat! Ur mom needs 2 leave u alone about that who cares what she was at ur age ur not her. Just tell her 2 stop and at least ur healthy and not anorexic that it shouldnt matter how much u weigh. She needs 2 get off ur back! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

roxy	you are fine no matter what your mom says she should be ashamed of herself----would she like you better if you were anorexic or bulimic? i would think not-as far as her saying she was stick thin-that was her you are you not your mother and you need to tell her your happy the way you are that you are your own person and do not want to be stick thin thats not attractive anyway Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rocker chick	she's probably jealous that your body is ok and normal body type in comparison to her body stick at your age. (no offense to your mom) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kt	first of all i hate to hear that your mother tells you that. that is very unhealthy for a girl your age to hear this and I'm sorry. do you eat health and exercise. maybe start exercising your upper arms. but i hate to even tell you that, sounds like your perfect just the way you are. have you explained to your mother that her telling you that your fat really gets you down on yourself. try to explain that to her and maybe, hopefully it will stop. good luck!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Danielle	the fact that your a dancer changes a lot you have to have muscles and muscles weights more than fat but your not fat with or with out the muscles I'm 15 1/2 also but i weigh 108 and im 5'5" but i was also anorexic and I'm still working on getting my weight back up Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

soccerloverls	Man girl you skinny! I'm 17 and heavier than that. Don't change anything. I am quite content with the way I look, and my boyfriend thinks so too. ;) Just eat healthy, meaning 3 meals a day (breakfast being the most important) and excersizeat least 3 times a day. You don't need to lose any weight though. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bradmichaels2008	No you are right. Don't listen to her. You dont need to lose weight. She sounds very jealous and self loathing. Do NOT end up being like her. Love yourself and stay healthy. When you have kids, dont criticize them the way your mom does to you. Do not lose weight just to get her off your back. You dont need to lose weight. Besides, if you did, i have a feeling she will find something else to criticize you about. As i said, she is self loathing. Also selfish to say that to her own daughter. Be a better person and just ignore her. Focus on your health. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Starlyn	NOTHING! You're mom is rediculous to talk to you like that. You don't want to be any smaller than you are. Muscle thickness is good. Do you really think "stick skinny" looked good? YUCK! Your mom was probably nasty looking. Like legs the size of arms. The very worst thing you could do is to let your moms comments cause you to be insecure or to create a complex or eating disorder. Just be happy knowing you feel good about who you are and how you look. And know that not everyone has the same view on what looks good. If we did, what a boring world we would live in. We'd all be chasing the same guy and there would be a lot of lonely people out there. Maybe what looks good to your mom is the Hollywood crack head skinny. To me though, I think slender girls look nice, with some muscle tone on them. Like flat belly, with nice round solid butt and muscular legs. You might like something else... Feel me? Don't go getting "sick" because you're trying to please anyone else!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TN Seeker	Tell her that you take responsibility for managing your weight. Sounds like you're a good size. If you don't like the flabby arms, then decide to and then do something about it. A few push ups every day would firm them up in a couple of weeks. Also, share with your mom that her constantly telling you you're fat makes you uncomfortable. Ask her that she please stop. She shouldn't compare you to herself at your age. That's unfair. Different time and you also have your father's side's genes. She doesn't. You may only be 15 but she should expect that you will express your independence. be nice but be firm. She'll respect your honesty and hopefully honor your request. stay active and remain confident in yourself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Liddy is Lost	Your mum has issues, I think you need to tell her that is it HER problem and not yours, because your weight is fine for your height and if you are only wearing a size 3, then you must have a very athletic build. Your mum has no business telling you that you are fat, when you are clearly very thin. So don't try to slim down, please, just tell her to leave you alone because your mum is the one person you need to be there for you and support you and not push you into an eating disorder. It's harsh, but your mum needs to know this. Take care : ) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Emiko	DON'T change for your mom. She must be stupid because there's weight chart that says your in a healthy weight zone. If you try to "slim down" it might become unhealthy! So don't slim down, TONE UP! It's better for you. Good luck! Oh and tell your mother she's a *********! -lol- Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

??	Well, muscle weighs more than fat so it could be that you're really buff ^^ You don't sound fat,overweight, or obese. It's not healthy for you to be super skinny anyway. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LO!	don't do anything you are perfect. clearly your mom isn't showing you unconditional love. why don't you google anorexia and print some pics of near death girls and just hand them to your mom and ask her if this is what she wants you to look like. if you have a good doctor have him write a note to your mom telling her you are in good health. you can't change your mom but if you are a mom some day don't repeat this behavior with your kids. maybe you could embarass your mom in front of others by saying after dinner, "excuse me i need to go make myself vomit because my mom has unrealistic body expectations of me" don't reall do it of course but maybe some adults in your moms life could talk some sense into her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Caitlin	You are not fat at all. She must have some emotional issue or be stressed or something. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lal	You don't need to slim down-you're perfect! Your body mass index is in the "normal" range. Your mom is sooo wrong to be saying things like that-that's how teens fall into the traps of eating disorders. Let her in on this piece of info-ask her how she would feel if you became anorexic or bulimic. Apart from that, tell her that she is negatively impacting your self esteem and it will probably continue to affect you for the remainder of your life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No