I dont like myself :[?

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anchik	yeah... throw out the mirror, hon Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ian	I think a doctor might be able to help you if you weigh that litle that is dangerus Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mahmoosh	hi there. i think you're not fat at 74 pounds. honey, don't give yourself a hard time. first of all, you should stop comparing yourself with other people. they're not you and you're not them. start loving yourself and you'll feel a lot better. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

biker550_uk	I wouldn't say that your weight would make you fat.... (unless you are 0.5 meters tall) Unfortunately beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You are welcome to chat to me if you want, you have my id. Beauty is also more than your out side shell. The person with in will always shine through. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mykecav	74 ponds? how old r u? Don't feel bad, I weigh 216, try yahoo chat 4 friends with a blind eye, just don't buy a webcam=) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

alma61980	Dont you have faith in GOD? STOP comparing yourself with others like your friends we are all different you are unique and if you think you are fat with 74 pounds you need to talk to a Therapist, 911, ASAP Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cyber_music	and how intelligent are you compared to your friends? what about your talents? you are only comparing yourself physically with these people. There's more to you than what's in the mirror. I'm sure there's more to you than your weight and hair color. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

old66	First of all get this into your head. People like us to just about the same degree we like ourselves. If this is true how is it possible that we have any friends at all? inspite of what many think, most people are more forgiving of us than we are of ourselves. Then many times we don't dislike ourself as much as we say, we all have thoes hidden moments whn we lok at ourselve in the mirror. Let us say we don't like the way we look, would we not try some changes if only to satisfy ourselves? Of course our drive to whip ourselves for being a bad person could the overiding factor. I suggest you read books by Dr. Mathew Smatz. hope this is correct) He was a plastic surgeon) who explained that even after some of his finest work, patients would of times still only see a ugly person. The picture was in their mind & not in their head. I havef a daughter this way. Fathers have a blind spot, but i will not make foolish claims as to being a movie star, but her picture is way off the beaten track. She always felt a nose job would give her a better life. Incidently her mother hated her own nose. Yet this same kid is an excellent cook(unless she gets in a hurry & forgets to taste taste as she goes), is an excellent worker where ever she goes, has never failed to move up in a position. Excellent house keeper. When she came to live with me as a teen, she was a failure in college, but not in high schoolher older sister made her finish this level. I made her finish one class over TV. She hated this class, but got a "B", however , most of all learned she was not really stupid. All the past lessons have come home. Now that she has a child to take care of her focus has shifted from self to the good of the whole. She works full time. Makes such good side earnings over e-bay, that I hope to emulate, is going to school over the internet. Her goal? To become a CPA. I can't say that all feelings of the uggly ducklying have disappeared. She still wants the nose job, but has used these desires to motivate her. Now she is even slightly a snob. When I was a teen, my life was so filled with hurt that I sttarted each day telling myself how much I hated the whold world, did not need anyone. So try this! Each day look into a mirrow & tell yourself that each day you are getting better in each way. Promise to stick to it for 6 months, then renew the pledge, but must do so for 1/2 hr. each day. Try to say each line with passion. Believe it is the goal. Use your imaginastion to see you all dressed up, over your shyness, a few boys hanging around, a new hair do. Practise each day, then do. The mind does not know the difference between practise & what is. Which is the truth? One of my favorites, since so many women have this problem, is to lead them to a mirror & ask them to describe what they see. Then I tell them what I see. What a difference! Melts them every time! Why because I am telling the truth. MOst people know that I go out of my way to never lie. Know how I learned this? I had to start with myself. I had to find things that were not all that bad as a starting point, then I realize people might be interested, because the features were different. Most of all I had to learn to smile, to open up. Joined Toast Masters, went back to school, started writtin to people( never could spell as a kid)LOst a few distant girlfriends that way. We are what we decide to be. What we chose to be. One womaqn I know was very beautiful, she had such a inner glow. In reality, God had not been too kind. Her husband would not have traded her for anyone, her friends wanted to be like her. Talk about self imagine. I often wondered how much effort it took for her mind to except her self imagine. IT is like having to give aspeech, being too terriffiued to do so, then following advice, pretending that the listeners are all without clothes. Sometimes it is harder to give the speech, because people want to know why you keep breaking out in laughter, THe self imagine change is up to you. It must be accompanied by action. Maybe you need to go on a diet? Join a gym? I always remember a story told by a friend,. In grade school he picked on this girl without mercy. Told her how uggly & stupid she was. THese were his tru fellings. THen in High school he met a girl, but when he asked her for a date she dsaid no. He could not believe his ears, for no girl said no to him. Then she sais"you don"t remember me do you" HE knew he could never forget someone so beautiful! Then she explained that she was the same girl from grade school & she would rather go out with a dog. THen she told him it was all too bad, because she had such a crush on him back then, she thought she would never live through it all. Nothing is not changeless, as this girl proved, but she became incharge of her life & a charged up soul. You can do it. I am in my middle years & at one time I felt my life was pretty well over. My appearance & actions announced my feelings. My social life reached nil. THen qa light went on. I quite shaving my head & let it grow a bit. Here I am pretty well bald. First I had started with a moustache dye job. Everyone told me how much better I looked! Wanted to know if I lost weight or something. Well, they would say" whatever it is, don't stop. Next was the hair. I wads one of thoes who always thought such things were so phony. But started getting responses from the ladys. My face is still the plain ols one I was born with. But they couldn't believe my age. Social life got better. Some even asked me out! But I was the one that had to change, learn to smile once again, believe in others & most of all believe in myself again. This past week end a friend of 7-8 years invited me to a park, BBQ with her and her family. She said you look so different what have you done to yourself. You see I had let myself drift away in the past couple of years, but missed everyone. What a self punishment! THe only thing she never guessed was taht I hasd touched up the hair & it was neat & cared for. So good luck, but it is not luck, but determination for a better life. Once you start, you must stick to it or like me it can fade once again. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

[♥punk]	ok first of all dont do this to your self,i mean no body i mean nobody is perfect,you need to understand that people come in all different colors sizes and shape to you,you may think your ugly but your not you have to take you for you you really do,and i mean that,ok dont do this to your self, i have a big 4 head, and i thaugt i was ugly, but one day i was wacthing the tyra banks show she have a big 4head and she told girls like me to be proud, of what u r!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ex_inferis_uk	just relax, and think. no matter what you look like you are probably a lot better looking than any member of any royal family anywhere. if they can put up with the way they look so can you. :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kam	if you can start thinking about your self that you are positive and smart ..then many plus things will happen in your life ... but do not under estimate your self in your eyes ... god has made you for some reason ..just do all thing positively ... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pastr_pat	Sometimes is about whats in our heart, what your values and what you "prize". If you esteem something or someone to beof more value then you, it helps you stay focused. I did. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

windandwater	74 pounds !! I could carry you like I do my grandchildren - upside down. You are in no way fat. And all kids, boys and girls go through an ugly duckling stage. Boys go through it longer than girls - just like girls mature faster than boys (some never do) :). I thought I was ugly when I was a girl too and I told myself I would never weigh over 100 lbs. But I grew out of that and you will too. Then I was called cute, then pretty, and now beautiful. But even if I was homely or ugly - it doesn't matter - I have a good heart and I'm a nice person. This is what makes people beautiful - what's on the inside, not on the outside. Have you ever heard that beauty is only skin deep?? Well, if you took the most beautiful woman in the world who was mean, spiteful, nasty, and ugly on the inside and put her against a woman who wasn't as beautiful but on the inside she was generous, nice, friendly, caring, and good-hearted, who do you think would win? Yep, probably the beautiful one, if it was men voting. Now say you take both of these women when they are 70 years old and all wrinkled and put them against eachother. Who do you think is more beautiful now?? Neither of them cause they're both old and wrinkled - but who's the happier one? Don't compare yourself to your friends - just be the best person you can be in everything you do. That is true beauty. Everlasting. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tonyagsgoddess	ok if you think 74 lbs is fat ten you really have a problem. an eating disorder. beauty is in the eye of the beholder. who cares what others think of you and if you keeo thinking of yourself that way others will too you need to seek profesional help if you think 74lbs is fat Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

toolate	NO one is completely satisfied with themselves, but u said "my friends" now there are people that cant even say that so now u should consider ureself lucky Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

zarauberzang	Well , you know you're not fat unless you are only 2 feet tall. Why don't you like yourself or is it other things about your life you don't like - bad things happen to good people (sadly good things happen to bad people) . You need a cognitive readjustment to separate the "bad" connections You need some "work" on your thoughts/self esteem etc and I'd talk to you too but I think you need someone up close and personal with a bit of skill in self affirmation - You can start by writing down some good things and posting them where you can see them - anyone (well almost anyone) can find lots of bad things about themselves especially if other things in life aren't working out Every day is a new day (I hate starting over daily myself but really we all do every day :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bsktbllsam5691	thats not fat...and you should like yourself...i like you :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ljgalvan	I like you! And by the way, you shouldn't compare yourself to anyone.. maybe you need to find the right style for you.. get a make over, a different hairstyle, or a cool new piercing :D Have fun, and love yourself always! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cashmoneycuban	ahhh it can't be that bad...i am one ugly sucker and i weigh 230 lbs. and i ended up with a sweet pretty woman for a wife.....and i am not rich either...so go figure no matter how bad it is it can always get better and there are people who are worse off Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

DisneyLover	i don't like myself either but you just have to accept it Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hate_love	i dont like you either. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

usher9112003	Listen baby love yourself and im sure that there is someone out there to love you for you because if you dont than no one else will and thats not good baby you are the way that u are because you are supposed to be not because something/someone wanted you that way Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lollipop	ok u are not right in the head 74 pounds is nothing its like air get over urself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nameer	That is called Bad self-Esteem...U should think more Positively and don't think that stupid Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

js8incher	i dont know how old u are but no matter what age, it sounds like you need to see a professional not us. you need to find all the good stuff about yourself and stop focusing on what you THINK is bad. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No