How do I tactfully get my girlfriend to lose some weight?

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koreangurl	Start taking walks or go to the gym and invite her...Make it sound like you want to go for you, but really for her. You are going to have to give a little to in order to be tactful about this type of situtation... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lori T	Im sorry but being healthy does not mean you have to be thin she could be healthier than you. now I wouldnt say to her that you want to her to be healthy. bec that will make her upset, I would stat that how much you love her but you just would like her to loose alittle weight not because you find you dont find her atractive but you love her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

PHILLYGUY	ASK HER TO JOIN THE GYM WITH YOU. TELL HER THAT YOU WANT HER TO BE AS HEALTHY AND FIT AS YOU. YOU DONT HAVE TO TELL HER SHE IS FAT BUT EXPLAIN THAT YOU ENJOY BEING HEALTHY AND ITS SOMETHING YOU WANT TO EXPERIENCE WITH HER. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chrihutch	You claim that she's everything you want in a woman. How long have you been with her? Did she look the same way when you got together? Is she a really nice girl? Is she sweet? I'd rather date someone who was bigger and nice and kind. Then some of the smaller people who are sometimes mean. (Now I don't want any haters out there! I said SOME of the smaller people!!!) Ask her to take walks with you or go for bike rides in the park. Make it a "couple" thing to do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kemioshodi	take walks in the park or walk everywhere if this is possible. walking is the BEST excercise. why don't you buy you and your girlfriend a GYm membership. go together if you can. get her some lessons with a personal trainer. as for now cook healthy meals. hello she eats what you eat. to start off, have her eat 5 meals a day such as a healthy breakfast, then a snack, lunch, snack, and dinner. bake all meats if you can. eat veggies, use low-fat butter and buy oils in cans such as PAM. Also, see if the GYMhave an nutritionist on site. if not bring her to your nutritionist or tell her to make an appoinment with hers. tell her that you heard that weight gain can cause heart disease, diabetes, high blood pressure which can lead to strokes, reproductive problems and death sometimes. you want to grow old with her and think that the two of you should get into shape so you can live to see your grandchildren Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

weelittlemac	You need to tell her that you're going to go on a diet yourself, then she will probably realize that weight and appearance is important to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tropiccountrygirl	ask her if she would like to go to the gym with you when you go. just let her know you are asking because it would be a good way to spend time together. enroll in a class something fun and easy to start with. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

elguzano1	ask her to join you when you work out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Playing Nice	Offer to start up a program for the two of you, and sell it as being fun because you will be doing it as a couple and she won't feel offended, especially if you say it is because you want to get fitter as well. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jamieinreno	Obviously she's not everything you want, maybe you'd be better off looking for someone else instead of trying to change this poor girl. If you really loved her, you'd love all of her. you suck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jfahd	offer to go exercising with her or do other outdoor activities that involve her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Unknown	Have some boxes of diet shakes delievered to her anonymously. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

crude_oil	Sexercise Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

b_slap99	Stop taking her to McDonalds. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jordee B	I think that if you want her to lose weight you should eat healthier and work out with her, that way she feels like you do care about her health because you are participating with her. If you just suggest it and expect her to do it alone yes she will take it the wrong way and get affended. Also, she can start eating healthier and start working out but if she is doing it alone it won't last long. Maybe suggest "lets get a membership and go to the gym" and and help her plan the meals that you eat Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hemingway	First, is SHE unhappy with her weight? If so, and she's expressed this, support her in any way you can to help her lose weight: eat healthy, participate in outside activities, go to the gym together, and most important, acknowledge her efforts and commitment to lose weight. If her extra 25 or 30 pounds is your problem only, it's your problem only. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Teresa V	Was she heavy when you met her? How old is she? Does she have any children? Is she on any type of birth control? Work a stressful job? How is her health? If she was heavy when you met her you knew what you were getting into. You can't complain about what you once adored. If she is in her late 30s or 40s her hormones could be fluctuating and causing a weight gain. If she recently (I'm talking about ever) had any children she may still be carrying weight, especially if she breast fed. Doctors say women lose weight if they breast feed but some women are left with large amounts of breast tissue (which can be very heavy) even after they stop nursing. Almost all types of birth control cause weight gain. You can consider a vasectomy. Stress is known to cause weight gain. There are many disease that can cause weight gain. Hypothyroid is one. She should get checked out by her doctor to rule out medical causes. If all else fails start planning a vacation (several months away) in a tropical location. The idea of going on a beach in a swimsuit is usually enough to prompt women to lose weight. It also will give you some time together to remind you of all the reasons (other than her physical being) why you love her. Good luck and....ALOOOOHA!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

OU812	Ask her to be your exercise partner. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Liddy is Lost	Ok, I have to ask this, but is she 25lb-30lb too much by your standards, or by medical standards. I don't like it when people expect others to lose weight because they don't fit their ideals, but if she is 30lb overweight, I can understand your concern and it is very admirable for you to be concerned for her health. You can exercise together. Maybe go for an early morning jog or cycle. You could also cook her a healthy romantic meal now and again and encourage her to try new foods, that are healthy. Don't focus so much on her losing weight, but on being active and fit with a healthy lifestyle. But whatever you do, don't beat on at her about her weight, as it will just make her want to eat more and she will not thank you for it. HTH :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Billy Boy	Invite her to work out with you. If you don't work out, start. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rhondwht4	You two should work out and diet together!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

molly w	well, alot of us have the same answer for you, without being negative, but being flabby myself, I would soooo get my feelings hurt if my boyfriend told me I needed to loose weight, my boyfriend got us bikes, and we rode together, and also encouraged me to eat salads(said "hey theres a great shrimp&spinach salad at applebees..."" and I just realised by reading comments HERE that his intentions were for me to loose weight. hmmmm. so find a positive way to do it,combine everyones answers that are positive, remember her feelings. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Juan Kassoff	try, YO fatty, get on a diet! then run! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lucybelle	I don't know that there's really any tactful way to tell your girlfriend (or any other woman, for that matter!) that she's too fat. If you share meals, you could encourage healthy eating or start cooking for her and eating out at healthy restaurants. You could share some exercise activities. Walking or biking or even joining a gym together. Make it fun, and all about health and not about her weight. I think if you do decide to talk with her about it, you should definitely emphasize your concerns for her health--that you want to have a long, healthy relationship, and you truly have her best interests in mind (not her appearance). Even if you talk with her in the most tactful, loving way, she may misunderstand you. My husband complains all the time that he will make a statement, and I will automatically take it to the worst extreme.... I don't know, but this may be a trend in most women, especially when it comes to our appearance! I think it's great that you're concerned for her health. I hope you can enjoy some healthy dialogue and activities together. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tricia K	Why don't you start an exercise program with her. If you just flat out tell her to lose weight she will be miserable. BUT if you say something like lets start walking together, it may help. She will see it as a fun activity you both can do, and you can see it as a way for her to start dropping the weight. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Fat G	Healthy weight loss tips * Take one pound at a time Don’t get overwhelmed by how much weight you need to lose. Try to remember that "losing 15 pounds in two weeks" is nothing to celebrate. It is important to realize that the more quickly weight is lost, the more likely the loss is coming from water and muscle, not fat. Since muscle tissue is critical in keeping our metabolism elevated, losing it actually leads to a decrease in the amount of calories we can each day without gaining weight. Fat loss is best achieved when weight is lost slowly. Strive for a weight loss of no more than 3-4 pounds per week. One pound of weight is equivalent to 3500 calories. * Set Reachable Goals For instance, if you know you need to get more exercise, begin with a manageable goal of, say, walking 10 minutes a day that you know you can achieve. Then build your self-esteem by achieving the small goals you set yourself. The same logic applies for losing weight. * Stay off the scales Don’t get discouraged when your progress seems to be slow according to your bathroom scales. They do not provide a true measure of what is going on with the body. If exercise levels are adequate (5-7 days a week), you may be putting on muscle but losing fat, thus losing inches even if you are not losing pounds. It's always a good idea to do several body measurements to have a second objective way to monitor progress. * Stay focused on being healthy, not thin # Many people become more successful at long term weight loss when their motive changes from wanting to be thinner to wanting to be healthier. Change your mindset to think about selecting foods that will help your body's health rather than worrying about foods that will affect your body's weight. The Food Pyramid offers a basic outline of the types and amounts of food you should eat each day to give your body the nutrients it needs for optimal health. * Fat Free? We've known for some time that limiting high fat foods in the diet can be helpful with weight loss. That's because fats pack in 9 calories per gram compared to only 4 calories per gram from proteins or carbohydrates. To many, the message to limit fats implied an endorsement to eat unlimited amounts of fat-free products. Just to clarify, fat-free foods have calories too. In some cases fat-free foods have as many calories as their fat laden counterparts. If you eat more calories than your body uses, you will gain weight. Eating less fat will help you to lose weight. Eating less fat and replacing it with excessive amounts of fat-free products will not. * Drink plenty of water Drink eight glasses a day. Water is a natural appetite-suppressant. Nettle tea is a great weight-loss tea as it supports metabolism and has diuretic properties. * Reward yourself # Each time you reach a goal, such as losing 5 pounds, reward yourself with a gift or a massage. * Seek help if you need it # A big key in long term weight control comes from receiving encouragement and support from others. Find a friend to lose weight with or you can check to see if groups such as Weight Watchers, or eDiets offer programs and resources in your area by clicking the links. You may also wish to check with your local hospital to see if their registered dietician conducts group weight loss programs. * Watch your portions With the advent of "supersize" meals and increasingly huge portions at restaurants, our concept of normal serving sizes is a distant memory. Be mindful of the amounts of food you consume at a sitting. When necessary, divide your food in half and ask for a take home bag. It is all too easy to be a "plate cleaner" even when served enormous portions. Learn to pay attention to your hunger level and stop eating when you feel comfortably full, not stuffed. * Eat your food slowly Did you ever notice that thin people take an awfully long time to eat their food? Eating slowly is one method that can help take off pounds. That's because from the time you begin eating it takes the brain 20 minutes to start signaling feelings of fullness. Fast eaters often eat beyond their true level of fullness before the 20 minute signal has had a chance to set in. The amount of calories consumed before you begin to feel full can vary significantly depending on how quickly you eat. So slow down, take smaller bites and enjoy your food. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mighty_power7	accept her for the way she is. even if you could somehow persuade her to diet, she would only be doing it for you, and that might make her depressed - she would think she wasn't good enough for you. she has to want to diet, she has to see it in herself, and she has to want to be healthy. you can't force her...i wouldn't even bring it up with her. set an example for her, invite her to come and work out with you or something, but if she doesn't want to, let it go. but no matter what, love her for who she is inside. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sweet_truth	Work out with her, or take her for walks around the park or around the block. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

snowflake_kitten_7	act like you want to change your diet to healthier foods and ask her if she will support you and if you have a PlayStation 2 or x box dance dance revolution is a great fun way to unknowingly get her to exercise also game cube has Mario dance they are very fun and a good workout without even knowing it she will drop the pounds like crazy Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

GLH (male 48 UK)	tactfully put a lock on the refrigerator and tactfully hide the key Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No