My best friend just found out she had Cancer. I want to do something nice for her.?

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?	Buy her a Wii and an eighth of an ounce of something that rhymes with Wii. Is this not the most, cut-the-bullcrap, answer? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BIG B	adopt a child and tell her if anything happens to her you will take care of the child also that child will help her to fight and survive im not being funny or anything this might actualy work it will motivate her to fight good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Soccergirl789	That is such a sad thing when someone finds out they have cancer. It's really nice that you want to do something for her. It all depends on how big you want this thing to be. If you want something small, maybe make her a dinner and bring it to her. Otherwise, if you wanted to do something larger, you could maybe throw a party, and invite some friends of hers. I wish you luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

abediv	How about just spending some time with her. If she is feeling depressed maybe having some good friends around her will be just the thing she needs. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Swaygirl27	Ever scrapbooked? It is a beautiful thing as a gift...I got one from a friend as a 'Everything will be ok' type of thing when I was going through bad depression and I still look at it today. If you do not know how to scrap-book well you can surely find someone in your area to help you put a scrapbook together. Most "scrapbookers" love to do it... and I'm sure they'd be honored to do it for this reason. Good luck.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mrs. Goddess	Send her a huge extravagant bouquet of spring flowers. Spring flowers are so beautiful that it would make anyone smile. Plus it's symbolic of a new season and new beginning - you could put a note to that effect in your own words. It might offer her hope that she desparately needs. If she is a sweet eater, also bake her a big batch of gooey, sinfully rich brownies - all for her. Other than that, just be there to be whatever kind of friend she needs you to be. I have been in your position and a few things really helped. 1. listen more than talk. 2. Let hugs replace your words. 3. Learn as much about her illness as you can - not so that you can provide information or insight. Just so that while you are listening, you understand better what she is talking about. 4. Follow her lead - if she needs to be alone, give her the space she wants without taking it personally. But, let her know that if she needs to call you at 3:00 in the morning, it is absolutely fine with you. 5. Cancer can be a very long drawn out process. She will probably have a lot of people rallying around her in the beginning, but if it drags on, people will start to fall away. Some will not make the time and get absorbed in their own routine again. Others will not be prepared for how hard it is, not know what to say or how to comfort her and will shy away from her completely. Stick with her through thick and thin no matter how long it drags on. When everyone else has gone, show her that you are still by her side. She will be fighting for her life & may sometimes need your strength to help her. She'll be in my prayers. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Deborah M	Try something simple, see if she will come over and the two of you can just have a girl night. A comedy marathon of movies and popcorn. Get her laughing. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Foxglove Kent	Just be with her when you can. And by this, I mean, call her to let her know you're thinking of her, go and visit, take her little gifts if you feel like it (stuff like a little teddy bear, or some cookies to share with her), offer to bring a DVD movie over and watch it together - just let her know she's not alone. And whether you do this at night before you go to sleep, or while you are right by her side holding her hand, if you are a person of faith, pray for her, or pray with her. Medical research proves that whether a person knows or not that they have been prayed for, prayer does have a beneficial effect. People who are prayed for, even if they don't know people are praying for them, get better faster, recover more completely. If they do know they are being prayed for, it can have a very good effect - psychological or physiological, it can only help to know that others care about you when you're going through something tough. Above all, the very best thing you can do for her is to celebrate every day of life she has left - whether 60 years or 6 months - being a good friend is the very best gift you can give her. Don't wait. A friend of mine for over 30 years passed away three nights ago from cancer. We weren't close any more but I still care about him. I wish I had called him when I couldn't stop thinking of him two weeks ago. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sally_simon2	Just be there to listen and comfort her. The best gift is your time. Also a nice treat like ice cream couldn't hurt. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

boldelly	My daughter had cancer last year and it is a hard thing to take in and deal with, but one thing that helped her were not presents of any sort, but having her friends there with her when she felt good. Having someone come and visit her a bit even if it was only for a few minutes. Getting out of the hospital room or house for a little while, things like that, the simple things. Lots of prayers too. Just be there for her! Hope all gets better for her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Simmi	I think the most valuable is spending time with her. Somehow people can drop off the face of the earth when you are going through this. She needs to know there are people who really care about her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No